Do you believe in yourself Wild Woman? So much so that when you put yourself ‘out there’ and make a decision to do something a little risky, there is no thought whatsoever about regret, or turning back, or about any flak that you might get as a result of doing so?
Well good for you if that’s the case. You obviously know the greatness within and have a wonderful belief in yourself and your ability. I applaude you!
Do you …
Work like you don’t need the money.
Love like you’ve never been hurt.
Dance like nobody is watching.
Sing like nobody is listening.
Live like there’s no tomorrow.
Fear like a stone.
Author Unknown
To live with that kind of attitude could only create a total inner freedom that opens up your heart and lets your spirit soar into the satisfaction that you have used your life to be a true expression of Divinity.
Naysayers Can Rob Your Dream
Unfortunately most people don’t have that kind of belief in themselves. Rather, they are easily unsettled by naysayers.
I found just the other day that I can still be knocked off balance by naysayers. In a recent email that I sent to the Wild Woman, someone felt uncomfortable and reacted in an aggressive way.
Now you might be thinking ‘big deal, one person’s opinion, what are you worrying about?’ And you would be right. It’s not a big deal. And it will most likely happen again and again if I choose to put myself out there. And that is a risk I will have to take if I want to live my life on purpose, fulfilling my intention of making a little bit of sense to this life for other women who have struggled and now want to live and ‘love like they’ve never been hurt and dance like no-one’s watching.
But you know, while it’s not a big deal, it did unsettle me for a while. And on the same day someone suggested I was ‘dreaming’ if I thought I could make a difference, especially on the Internet where it’s all so shady.
Ouch!
Now it was really feeling kinda personal.
Sure it felt personal. But was it?
No!
In fact, the one’s who were reacting negatively were projecting from their own issues, fears and insecurities.
But I did take it personally, even if for just a short while. You see, I also reacted in the old way of letting fear dictate my life.
I even found myself thinking “What if I’m just not meant to do this ‘work’ after all”?
Hell no! That’s the old ego slipping in the back door at any chance it gets.
The ego’s job is to keep me safe and out of the way of any kind of threat or perceived threat. And by reacting to a threat of my worth by thinking ‘I’m not good enough’ would stop me from getting ‘out there’ again.
And honestly, I’m over it. I’m so over letting my fear and ego rule my life and stopping me from having fun and feeling fulfilled that I’m just going to do it again and thumb my nose at my fear and tell it to shove off. I’m coming through.
And the amazing thing about doing that is, it’s actually getting a little easier each time I put myself on the line, so to speak.
So, ultimately, what is stopping you from doing what you want to do is fear. And I find that those who are the most sensitive are the most vulnerable to having their dreams destroyed by fear.
Sensitivity
I have met quite a few sensitive people in my life. And in most cases, the most sensitive of all was the one looking back at me in the mirror.
I was often scolded as a child for being too sensitive and that accusation always floored me. Why didn’t anyone understand that my feelings were hurt? And to rub salt into the wound, no one seemed to care. They thought I was a pathetic whiner.
Later in life when I finally discovered a different way of living, by remembering that I am a spiritual being having a human experience I learned that being sensitive was a wonderful quality to have.
Little did I realize that this is what can easily happen once we open the door to spirituality. We learn things from books and other people, but because we haven’t had the opportunity to live what we are taught it is sometimes only half way to truth.
That’s how it was for my ‘enlightenment’ about sensitivity.
Sure, being sensitive to other people’s needs and feelings is admirable. But hold on a moment. That’s empathy. And many sensitive people that I’ve met are empaths as well. I too have that quality which I never want to change about myself – being able to put myself in another’s shoes allows me to have an understanding and to easily and comfortably offer support and encouragement. But you need to understand there is a difference between sensitivity and empathy.
Sensitivity Is Not Empathy.
I just looked up sensitive in the dictionary. Here’s a little of what I found “ Easily irritated, delicate. Affected by external conditions or stimuli. Easily offended.”
Ok, well that’s nothing like being an empath at all. Being sensitive is being affected and reacting irritably by conditions outside of yourself. Living ‘at cause’ by things, situations and people leaves you wide open to emotional assault. Being sensitive, your life is a result of what others are doing or saying, to, or about you. Now, what others do or say about you is way out of your control. This is what causes so many people to live lives of ‘quiet desperation’ as they think their life is completely out of their control and that they are at the mercy of others at nearly every bend and turn in life. They don’t know or forget the power that is within.
You cannot live authentically, or be true to yourself while you are worrying about every little thing that happens outside of you. You can only control what is going on inside of you.
Sometimes you don’t have all the tools or knowledge that you need to take a step out, but you find the tools, or you make them.
And you know what feels really crappy, and threatening? When people don’t support your ideas and even curse you when something feels a bit uncomfortable inside of them.
But I promise you, they will be in the ‘out there’. But decide that their opinion is different and that yours is not understood, that’s all.
And, you know, someone else’s opinion is only that – their opinion And further more, it’s theirs and you don’t need another one. Your opinion is the one that matters most of all. Your opinion is the one that’s going to consciously create your future – and that, and only that, is the opinion you want to give your attention to.
Sure it’s uncomfortable to do what you want to do sometimes. But if you can only step through that barrier, the next time it will be easier, and even easier the time after that. And soon you will be wondering what you were so afraid of.
Hold the vision, what is it that you are working toward? What is it that you really want in your life? What is the feeling that you want to feel everyday? Make the choice that what you want to experience is worth every bit of effort that you have to put into it, then step up to bat. There’s no other way to create your dream.
It’s time.
You want the good life? Then step up and take a swing girl!
What do you want?
Peace?
A great realationship?
A better job?
Ok. So what’s the one thing that you can do today that will take you closer to the life you dream? One single small thing that once it’s done you will be one step closer to doing what you really want to do. It’s probably the thing that will make you the most uncomfortable. That’s why you haven’t done it, till now.
Just make a start.
You are the only one that knows the next step to doing what you need to do to have the experience that you see and feel in your vision.
See it
Hear it
Touch it
Taste it
Smell it.
Know what it looks and feels and tastes and smells like. Practice those senses so you know what it looks like and feels like etc etc .. when you have it within your awareness, when it has come to pass.
What’s it like there?
Is that what you want more of?
Then hold onto that feeling.
Your feeling, or vibraiton is what begins the manifestation process, bringing your dreams and visions to you.
Practice what it will be like, but feel it here and now, so that when it turns up you won’t freak out that it’s too good, and therefore too uncomfortable, and too difficult to believe that you’re worth it and deserve it.
Practice it.
Practice the feeling.
As often as you can.
Everytime you remember to hold the feeling, you are making a quantum jump into something better – you are making one more leap toward the realization of your vision.
Hold the vision Wild Woman.
Believe in Yourself.
And hold the dream.
So, have you decided to take the leap? Make the commitment to moving toward your dream by sharing your vision here with the community of Wild Woman. Once you’ve made that commitment openly, and read other Wild Women’s vision, it will inspire you to continue on your journey of living happy, wild and freeeeee!
With love and gratitude,
Jules
www.WildWomanWisdom.com