I’ve been fluffing around the edge of the internet for over four years now. By fluffing around I mean I’ve been studying all the ways of the internet including how to build a community and business online, but not actually creating any huge momentum.
Well I’m pleased to say I now know more than enough to run a successful business and to build the community that was my dream when I first started.
So if I have all this knowledge why haven’t I been giving it the attention it deserves and needs … you may well ask?
It comes down to one single answer .. one word .. one emotion. It’s the feeling that kills many dreams and causes people to live lives of quiet desperation. So what is that emotion?
Fear!
There are many reasons why people feel fear. I spent years trying to work out ‘what was wrong with me’.
Now, I’ve always had a passion to be an entrepreneur. I even started several businesses that had great potential, but fear caused me to stop trading almost before I even began.
The common denominator in doing the things that I was afraid of was anything that got me attention. That, to me, meant a paralyzing, life-threatening fear.
The first obvious clue to this was when I did a Business Management Course some years ago. I clearly remember the day my teacher told the class it was time to start putting ourselves ‘out there’. The fear/subconscious mind kicked in and the response was automatic. Immediately I felt a knot in my stomach and the idea that ‘maybe I just wasn’t meant to be in business after all’ consumed me.
I’m happy to say that I did eventually find out why I was afraid of getting attention. I found the answer after going through a past life regression. Finally I had the answer which I will share with you another time.
The only problem was, how do I now stop the fear from preventing me doing the things I wanted to do? Fear is a very powerful influence … if you let it be.
Many times I sit down at my computer to share tools, resources or insights with you, but there always seems to be something else more urgent to do right at that moment. Or is there? Is this my fear taking over? You bet it is.
So today, I decided that I’m just going to do it! I feel fear, but I’m going to write to you and everyone that asked to receive the Wild Woman Newsletter.
But I assure you I must remain aware that I don’t allow my kids or anyone else to seduce me into straying off my path of intention.
You know, there’s really no logical explanation why I should feel afraid. I’m sure that if you don’t like what I’m writing that you won’t email me and abuse me : ) It makes no sense.
And this fear is from something that happened in another time, another place, that still haunts me and has kept me from having fun my whole life.
It is simply fear. For me it is the fear that I will cause attention to be drawn to myself.
Well, I’ve had enough of holding myself back. I say … no more!
I do declare that I am ready to look fear in the face and find the
courage to do what I want to do anyway.
And that is to simply share my knowledge, tools, resources and
insights with you.
Today, I begin my life anew.
Anyway, it’s not really about me. The reason for my message is
about you Wild Woman. What is it that causes fear in you?
What is there that you want to do more than anything, but you just don’t do it?
What are your dreams and vision for your life?
Are you afraid of ending a bad relationship so that you won’t be
alone?
Are you still in that job that doesn’t allow you to express yourself
because you are afraid you’re not good enough to do better?
Come on!
I challenge you to face that fear and live an awesome life anyway.
Would you like to face your fears and share with other Wild Women what your fear has been … until today .. and what you’re prepared to do about it?
Then simply scroll down to the bottom and add your comments.
You never know, you just might make a difference to someone else’s world.
Can’t wait to hear from you.
With love and gratitude,
Jules
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Hi Wildwoman,
What a great question.
How do we work out what our fear is?
We may know that we feel it, but what is the root of it?
Do we just keep prodding ourselves by saying “what do I really fear” until it appears from the layers we have smothered it with?
Thank you Jules. You’re thoughts have come in devine timing for me, as today I am struggling with fear. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, and the reminder to face the fear and live a awesome life anyway.
Blessings to you sister.
Hi Kel, Thanks for being for the first brave Wild Woman to step forward and face your fear.
Kel, you’re already doing the most powerful thing anyone can do. That is .. to be aware of yourself. You already know there is a deep seated fear stopping you from doing what you really want. So the first thing is to ask yourself .. just what is it that I really want? When you know that, ask yourself another question. What is one small thing that I can do today to make that desire a reality? And if that one small thing is not going to cause you or anybody else any harm .. take that one small step. Yes, you may feel fear or anxiety, but do it anyway. If that is too overwhelming, see if you can break it down into even smaller steps.
Thanks for the question Kel. Watch for future postings about this subject. Great to hear from you again.
Good for you Josie. You know, sometimes we get so caught up in the fear we forget that .. as soon as we stop struggling with it and realize that it is simply “False Evidence Appearing Real” an enormous weight can be lifted and we can simply carry on as the powerful beings that we are.
Blessings to you too lovely lady!
My current fears I would have to say are…..not being able to finish study Ive started – fear of failure, and not being able to find a better job due to lack of confidence – fear of not being good enough.
And the funny thing is.. I know its False Evidence Appearing Real cos I know I can finish it and I know Im smart enough to get another job.
Go figure!
Hi Gypsy, great to hear from you again. You hit the nail right on the head when you commented ‘fear of not being good enough’. We each have so much to offer but we tend to hold ourselves back due to lack of belief in our own ability. I know you have a lot to offer and I also know that once you put your mind to something .. and FOCUS ON THAT .. anything is possible. You’ve shown me that before and I believe that you are capable of achieving whatever you set out to do. Go girl!
Jules, Jules, Jules…it seems as tho I have lived a life time since we last spoke…I have uncovered so many of my layers only to find that with each one, I still truly don’t know what it is I am afraid of…I so want to let go of certain things and or people in my life…do I think I will be forgotten? Is that why? Am I so shallow to think that if I am not in someone’s face they wont remember me? Why do I feel that I need to be a part of everything…why am I afraid of “being left behind” What I need to realise is that me, only with me, I can truly be happy…
Hello Anjali, it’s truly wonderful to hear from you. It sure has been a while since we spoke and it sounds like you have been very busy. The thing with all these layers that we carry with us is, there’s always more. And more. And more. But don’t let that put you off Anjali. The big illusion of this life is that everyhthing is “out there” But it’s not. Everything in your world is happening within you. There is nothing “out there”. Your creation is a result of your thinking. So how about, for a while anyway, you start to put your thoughts on what you want for your life, and all the blessings that you do have right now. Rather than thinking about how you aren’t gettting the experience you want, take the time to get clearer on the feeling that you want, rather than having the circumstances the way that you want them to be. It’s the feeling that is the instruction to the Universe. I’ll finish here now and reply to you personally, via your email address. You’re a precious woman Anjali, and like a lot of women, you’re the only one that doesn’t know it. God bless. Jules
You know so many interesting infomation. You might be very wise. I like such people. Don’t top writing.
Ah, fear-I just had such an interesting encounter. Many things are up for me in my life-including all the big ones like job, ending a realtionship, nursing a dying mother and starting a PhD, when I realized that I absolutely feared everything. I tried to think of a fear that I didn’t feel with so much going on and I simply couldn’t. I was a paralyzed, fearful rabbit! Somehow when I realized that indeed, I had nothing left to fear, the beautiful energy of creativity and inspiration began to flow through me and it changed everything